1 Chronicles 22:2-19 – As a Father, What Do You Want Your Kids to Remember?

Posted: May 18, 2020 in 13-1 Chronicles

1 Chronicles 22:2-19

Preparations for the Temple

I learned yesterday morning that one of my elderly church members passed away. His deterioration was rapid and swift. I had not expected him to pass away so quickly. I knew the end was near for him but thankfully in God’s providence, he did not have to linger long after his debilitating stroke. He and his wife had been married 62 ½ years by the time that he passed away late Saturday evening. I did not find out about it until Sunday morning right before our Sunday church services were about to begin. So, I told his wife that I would stop by and see her and the family after lunch on Sunday afternoon.

While there, I had discussions with his wife and her son about the memorable moments or memorable ideas that they had about her husband/his dad. The son was more talkative than the wife. I think she was just at a loss for words because the man she had been in love with since she was thirteen, never dated anyone but him, married to since she was eighteen, and for the following 62 ½ years lived life with him. It was all still kind of a bit much for her to comprehend. However, her son was able to give me greater insight on him. He said the one thing that immediately comes to mind when he thinks of his dad was his favorite saying, “If you ain’t gonna do it right, son, don’t do it at all!” He followed that up with statements about his dad’s work ethic that he taught him from an early age and how his dad was simply a provider for his family. He knew his dad would do anything to make sure that they had the necessities of life. His son said his dad had a saying about providing for your family and it was “your kids didn’t have a choice about coming into this world, that was your choice. So, you daggum better provide for them, no questions, no ifs, ands, or buts!”

What greater compliments could a child pay a father? Those are the things that are worth passing on. Those are the things that you want your kids to think about when they think about you after you are gone. As I dad, I know that these are some of the things that I want my kids to think about when they think of me after I am gone. I want them to have known several things. First, I hope that they will see that after my salvation, I was passionate about my relationship with God and that God came first in my life. Second, I want them to know that I loved them deeply (even when they didn’t think I did or even when they didn’t care if I did). Third, I want them to have seen that I was a whatever it takes kind of guy – a guy who gave 100% effort at anything I did. Third, I want them to see how important that work should be in our lives so that you have the ability to provide for your family. Fourth, when life knocks you down, the best revenge is to overcome whatever it was that knocked you down. I could go on and on about the things I hope that they remember long after I am gone. But these are the biggies.

I know that there is plenty too that I want them to forget about me. I have made some huge mistakes in my life and they felt the impact of those decisions of my life. We often as dads forget about what we are saying to our kids by our decisions and actions and words. We, men, often take a long time to grow up ourselves and some of us never do. We often only think about how life affects us and what we want out of life. There are too many baby daddies out there and not enough fathers. Fathers who think about everything from the standpoint of what this action, deed, or word will say to my kids into eternity. What is it that you want your kids to remember about you as a father, when asked, after you are dead and gone?

With that idea of father moments, those memorable sayings, those memorable moments, those things we pass on to our kids, let us now read 1 Chronicles 22:2-19 now:

2 David gave orders to gather together the aliens who were residing in the land of Israel, and he set stonecutters to prepare dressed stones for building the house of God. 3 David also provided great stores of iron for nails for the doors of the gates and for clamps, as well as bronze in quantities beyond weighing, 4 and cedar logs without number—for the Sidonians and Tyrians brought great quantities of cedar to David. 5 For David said, “My son Solomon is young and inexperienced, and the house that is to be built for the Lord must be exceedingly magnificent, famous and glorified throughout all lands; I will therefore make preparation for it.” So David provided materials in great quantity before his death.

David’s Charge to Solomon and the Leaders

6 Then he called for his son Solomon and charged him to build a house for the Lord, the God of Israel. 7 David said to Solomon, “My son, I had planned to build a house to the name of the Lord my God. 8 But the word of the Lord came to me, saying, ‘You have shed much blood and have waged great wars; you shall not build a house to my name, because you have shed so much blood in my sight on the earth. 9 See, a son shall be born to you; he shall be a man of peace. I will give him peace from all his enemies on every side; for his name shall be Solomon,[a] and I will give peace[b] and quiet to Israel in his days. 10 He shall build a house for my name. He shall be a son to me, and I will be a father to him, and I will establish his royal throne in Israel forever.’ 11 Now, my son, the Lord be with you, so that you may succeed in building the house of the Lord your God, as he has spoken concerning you. 12 Only, may the Lord grant you discretion and understanding, so that when he gives you charge over Israel you may keep the law of the Lord your God. 13 Then you will prosper if you are careful to observe the statutes and the ordinances that the Lord commanded Moses for Israel. Be strong and of good courage. Do not be afraid or dismayed. 14 With great pains I have provided for the house of the Lord one hundred thousand talents of gold, one million talents of silver, and bronze and iron beyond weighing, for there is so much of it; timber and stone too I have provided. To these you must add more. 15 You have an abundance of workers: stonecutters, masons, carpenters, and all kinds of artisans without number, skilled in working 16 gold, silver, bronze, and iron. Now begin the work, and the Lord be with you.”

17 David also commanded all the leaders of Israel to help his son Solomon, saying, 18 “Is not the Lord your God with you? Has he not given you peace on every side? For he has delivered the inhabitants of the land into my hand; and the land is subdued before the Lord and his people. 19 Now set your mind and heart to seek the Lord your God. Go and build the sanctuary of the Lord God so that the ark of the covenant of the Lord and the holy vessels of God may be brought into a house built for the name of the Lord.”

In this passage, we see that David made it a point to explain to Solomon exactly why he would be charged with the privilege of building the Temple. His instructions to Solomon, including God’s reasoning from using David in a limited way, must have been a memorable moment for Solomon. The conversations we have with our children deserve out attention, honesty, and vision. Let us remember, as fathers, that our words and actions can have an eternal impact on our children. May it be that our children look back on the life of their father and see that, though we were imperfect beings, we taught them things that mattered, that were of eternal significance on both this side of heaven and on that side of heaven, that we were providers, that we set our children up for success.

The takeaway this morning is that our kids did ask to be born, that was our choice. We fathered them. It is our responsibility to be fathers to them not just baby daddies. We should raise our kids with an eye toward every action, deed, and word being watched. We have influence over our kids in humongous ways that are eternally important. Moms provide kids with unconditional love no matter what (and we desperately need that from moms as kids). However, it is our dads that teach us how to operate in this world, in this sometimes cruel, unforgiving, cutthroat world. Our kids by nature look to dads for their moral compass, the teaching about right and wrong, the teaching about consequences for actions, the teaching about hard work, the teaching for not having a sense that the world owes you a favor, the teaching about doing your best at everything you do, the teaching about dusting yourself off and picking yourself up when you have been knocked down, the teaching about what the world is like outside the home. That’s the job. That’s what we do as dads. They look to us for that. What will you have taught your kids when your life is over? What will be the legacy of thoughts, actions, and deeds that you have left behind? Will you have left behind the right legacy? Will you have left behind a godly legacy? Even if you have not started off so well as a dad, there’s still time to correct the mistakes about what your life is saying to your kids. It starts now. What will your life at its end say to them? What will it say?

Amen and Amen.

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