1 Chronicles 11:10-19 (Part 2) – Who Are Your Three – Those “When the Chips Are Down” Friends?

Posted: March 3, 2020 in 13-1 Chronicles

1 Chronicles 11:10-19 (Part 2 of 2)

David’s Mightiest Warriors

Yesterday, we talked about another kind of three. The three people that you can identify as people you need to pour your life into. But today, let’s talk about another three. Who are those three people who mean the most to you at this point in your life?

Who are those people or a person in your life that would take a bullet for you or would sacrifice anything to make sure you were OK. Those people are few and far between for all of us, I would venture to say. These persons are the ones that you can count on to be with you even when everyone else has disappeared. These are the persons that stick by you even when everyone else considers you a persona non grata. These are the persons that believe in you when everyone else thinks little of you. These are those rare people that we get to call our best friend(s). In today’s world where isolation is more prevalent than ever in society, a best friend is a rare treasure. We must take stock of those people and show them our appreciation. We must let them know that their loyalty to us does not go unnoticed. We should never take these friends for granted. And we should not just see them as people who can do stuff for us when no one else is willing to. More than person you can call and tell them you are stranded somewhere and just know that they will come to help you. These people do these things for us because they care for us deeply and they believe fully that we would do the same for them. These are the relationships that we need to be sure to honor in whatever way we can, as often as we can.

I have a couple of people in my life that I know that I can count on the most. That’s not to say that there are not other valuable relationships in my life but these are the three that have proven over and over to be there for me when I needed them the most. It is for these folks that I pour out the water offering of this blog to honor them.

First, and foremost, there is my wife. Elena has been in my life since we met in the Summer of 2007. We were engaged by February 2009 and married by March 2010. We will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary here in about 2 ½ weeks. Ten years of marriage. But just to think that prior to June 2007, I did not even know who she was and now she is my best friend. Just think that almost 13 years ago when we met when we both had just moved to Rock Hill, SC (her after many years in Clover, SC and me after many, many years in Greenville, SC), she too did not know who I was but she has now followed me to California, back to South Carolina (Greenville-Spartanburg area), to northwest Illinois (the Quad Cities area), and now back to South Carolina (the Florence, SC area, specifically, Lamar). We had a bi-coastal relationship for about a year when I moved to California ahead of her. She made so many sacrifices just to come see me when I was living there and she was still in Rock Hill. She dropped everything in her life and moved out there with me eventually. Then, back across the country to Lyman, SC for eight years where she took care of me while I was working and going after my Master’s Degree in Christian Ministry. She has always supported and sacrificed toward our goal of going into full time ministry. Without her I just don’t know where I would be. I know that no matter where I was at and no matter what I needed, she would try to make it happen for me. She is the one person that I can always count on – no matter what. She is my wife, but she is my best friend.

Second, there is my oldest daughter. She has been with me through thick and thin since she was a little tike who thought her daddy was the cat’s meow and 10 feet tall and bulletproof. She has stuck by me through my break up with her mom. She was there during the rough times after the break-up of my second marriage. She has always believed in me even when there were times that I didn’t deserve it. She has always been there for me, even when no one else was. And, I know that even if I was on the other side of the planet and I needed something, she would break her neck to get there to be there for me. She is more than a daughter. She is one of my best friends. My youngest daughter is important to me but in a different way. She was much younger when those tough years were around. However, because of what all has gone on in her life in the last decade, I hope that she knows that I am her “when all the chips are down” person that will always be there for her – even when no one else is.

Third, there is Humbert Perez. My best guy pal. He is my straight shooter. He tells me when I am full of crap and minces no words when I am. Yet, at the same time, I know that he loves me like a brother. Even though we have not lived in the same town for more than two years now, I know that if I called him and said I need you in Lamar right now, he would ask no questions and just hang up the phone and drive the 2 hours and 30 minutes from his house to mine. Only then, when he got here, would he ask what I needed. He is just that type of friend. The one guy that knows me inside and out. The one guy that will tell me the truth when I need to hear it. The one guy who will celebrate when I celebrate. The one guy that gets my silly, sarcastic, dad joke filled sense of humor. That’s the one phone call guy.

Just being able to honor those who mean the most to you is something that we ought to do as often as we can. Those people that you just know who would drop everything to be there for you. These are those rare finds kind of friends. I have just been blessed to have Elena, Meghan, and Humbert in my life. I have been blessed with three “when the chips are down” people in my life. That’s what I thought of this morning about those guys that sacrificed hard to get David the water that he wanted. Those “when the chips are down” kind of friends. Let’s read about it now in 1 Chronicles 11:10-19:

10 These are the leaders of David’s mighty warriors. Together with all Israel, they decided to make David their king, just as the Lord had promised concerning Israel.

11 Here is the record of David’s mightiest warriors: The first was Jashobeam the Hacmonite, who was leader of the Three—the mightiest warriors among David’s men.[a] He once used his spear to kill 300 enemy warriors in a single battle.

12 Next in rank among the Three was Eleazar son of Dodai,[b] a descendant of Ahoah. 13 He was with David when the Philistines gathered for battle at Pas-dammim and attacked the Israelites in a field full of barley. The Israelite army fled, 14 but Eleazar and David[c] held their ground in the middle of the field and beat back the Philistines. So the Lord saved them by giving them a great victory.

15 Once when David was at the rock near the cave of Adullam, the Philistine army was camped in the valley of Rephaim. The Three (who were among the Thirty—an elite group among David’s fighting men) went down to meet him there. 16 David was staying in the stronghold at the time, and a Philistine detachment had occupied the town of Bethlehem.

17 David remarked longingly to his men, “Oh, how I would love some of that good water from the well by the gate in Bethlehem.” 18 So the Three broke through the Philistine lines, drew some water from the well by the gate in Bethlehem, and brought it back to David. But David refused to drink it. Instead, he poured it out as an offering to the Lord. 19 “God forbid that I should drink this!” he exclaimed. “This water is as precious as the blood of these men[d] who risked their lives to bring it to me.” So David did not drink it. These are examples of the exploits of the Three.

In this passage, we see that David poured out the water as an offering to God because he was so moved by the sacrifice it represented. When the Israelites offered sacrifices, they never consumed the blood. It represented life and they poured it out before God. Davide would not drink the water that had been hard fought to gain by his men that were closest to him. He did not drink it because it represented a sacrifice made by the soldiers. To offer it up to God was a fitting way to honor their sacrifice. He could have been more of a selfish man and took the water and drank it up. However, by offering it up to God, it demonstrated that the men were serving God and not necessarily David. He honored his friends by making the water a holy sacrifice and not just some water that he drank.

Who are your three? Who are those three friends that you can honor today by just saying thank you in some way. Who are your three?

Amen and Amen.

  1. Elena Bowling says:

    Where you go I go. I love you and I believe in you.


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