1 Chronicles 3:1-9 (Part 1) – Baby Daddy & Not A Father: The Relevancy of The Old Testament

Posted: November 21, 2019 in 13-1 Chronicles

1 Chronicles 3:1-9 (Part 1 of 2)

Descendants of David

Have you noticed today that it is no longer easy to figure out family units? In today’s world, you so often encounter children that have different names from their fathers or mothers. In today’s world, a recent census study showed that almost ¼ of all children in America live in a single mom home. If you add in those kids that live in a single dad home the percentage increases to 31% of all American children. If you add in kids living in homes where their parent is remarried, the percentage increases to 46% of American kids. Almost half of American children live in a home where one of their birth parents does not reside with them (this is single parent home percentage plus remarried home percentage).

Kids with different names from their parents that they live with. You have to draw a diagram sometimes these days to know what kid belongs to whom. It is a problem that crosses all racial lines and all economic classes. It is the single greatest threat to the fabric of American society in my opinion. With the breakdown of marriage, there are all types of social ills that result. We are bearing children, because of what they see at home, that will have a higher degree of disregard for long-term, committed relationships. When parents don’t live in the same household leads to numerous effects on kids including lowered academic performance, higher degree of encounters with law enforcement, higher likelihood of living in reduced economic status or living in poverty, and exponential increases in likelihood of drug or alcohol addiction. These are frightening statistics. And, I myself have been divorced and remarried and have contributed to the national statistics in my own life. So, it’s not that I am some holier than thou person condemning those who have gone through life in this manner.

It boils down to the me-first attitudes of our nation. Sex is now sport because it is part of the me-attitude. If we want it, go get it, including what we might perceive as a better relationship. We no longer see male-female relationship as permanent or long-lasting. We see them as a vehicle to ride and we will trade it in on a new vehicle when the current vehicle no longer satisfies us or meets own needs. We think of the current state of affairs in our country as a new problem. And certainly compared to years past that is true. And we think of our social problems as something new under the sun. And we think that the Bible does not address those things, and particularly not the Old Testament, right?

One of the things about the Old Testament that I love is that when you read it, it is raw and real. It is us! When you read it you find things about our biblical heroes that are just like us today. An example of the ills that strife our society today where you have baby daddies not involved in their kids lives, you have brothers and sisters who have different mommas or different daddies, you  have kids living in the same household where their biological parents are not the same, and it seems that the daddy is more interested in himself and his career, and it seems that daddy is more interested in sexual conquest than in being a parent, you only have to look as far as the Old Testament to find similarities. You only have to look as far as David.

That was the thing that struck me this morning as I read through this passage, 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, about the descendants of King David. Wow! Just wow! How many different mamas were there for David’s kids? It then reminded me of how poorly he parented his kids when you reflect back on 2 Kings. David was a baby daddy and not a father. Just look at this genealogy and count the number of mamas for David’s kids. Is this passage relevant today or what? Let’s read it now:

These were the sons of David born to him in Hebron:

The firstborn was Amnon the son of Ahinoam of Jezreel;

the second, Daniel the son of Abigail of Carmel;

2 the third, Absalom the son of Maakah daughter of Talmai king of Geshur;

the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith;

3 the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital;

and the sixth, Ithream, by his wife Eglah.

4 These six were born to David in Hebron, where he reigned seven years and six months.

David reigned in Jerusalem thirty-three years, 5 and these were the children born to him there:

Shammua,[a] Shobab, Nathan and Solomon. These four were by Bathsheba[b] daughter of Ammiel. 6 There were also Ibhar, Elishua,[c] Eliphelet, 7 Nogah, Nepheg, Japhia, 8 Elishama, Eliada and Eliphelet—nine in all. 9 All these were the sons of David, besides his sons by his concubines. And Tamar was their sister.

The thing that you will notice here is that there are so many different moms for the children of David. He had a LOT of kids and they had a LOT of different moms. And what we know of David from Scripture is that he was not “dad of the year”. He was a disinterested dad when it came to his children. He always seemed more interested in how his children’s actions would impact his throne than he was in being a good father, teaching them right from wrong and about consequences. When sex is sport as it seemed to have been for David, you end up with multiple kids through multiple wives and there is no family intimacy. Kids become the byproduct of things that you have to deal with in sexual relationships and not as God intended the family to be. Kids are supposed to be the product of a committed loving relationship between a man and a woman, not human beings that are a byproduct of “putting another notch in our belt.”

David never connected deeply and emotionally with his children as he never really had a family unit of one mother and the children that she bore him. His kids were just a byproduct of having sex with multiple women. They were just like something you had to deal with because of having so much sex with so many different women. David for all his greatness, and well-deserved praise for being a man after God’s own heart, was just a “baby daddy”. That’s a term we use in today’s world for guys like David who sire multiple children by multiple women and has nothing to do with any of these children. This genealogy reminds us of why David acted so detached when we read about the rape of Tamar, the murder of Amnon, and the coup attempt by Absalom. He had to have a play card to know which child was by which mom. When you see it here in print, it reminds you of the sordid tale of David’s failures as a father. He had a crap load of kids by many women. That’s the quiet story that we need to learn from David. He stands as a warning to us today about throwaway relationships and sex as a recreational sport. Sex was intended by God to be a part of an intimate relationship between a man and a woman in a long-term committed relationship. Sex is then used for expression of love and to rear children within a stable committed family unit. All of David’s trouble as king can be traced to this genealogical mess that is David’s list of children.

Amen and Amen.

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