1 Kings 3:16-28 (Part 1) – Such Is Life: The Wisdom of My Dad

Posted: October 29, 2018 in 99-Uncategorized

1 Kings 3:16-28 (Part 1 of 3)
Solomon Judges Wisely

As some of you may know, my dad passed away one week ago today on Monday, October 22, 2018. That is why I have not posted on here in a week. I had to make the trip from where we live now in Illinois back to South Carolina for his funeral. Solomon’s story here kind of reminds me about some of the things that I admired about my dad.

I always looked to him for wisdom and he was the prototypical Southern gentlemen who was born at the tail end of the Great Depression on March 12, 1939 and just a year and 9 months before Pearl Harbor pulled America into World War II. Thus, he grew up in the Southern culture with all its quippy sayings. One of my dad’s favorite sayings that he often used with me was, “such is life!” That was a saying he used quite often when there was nothing that could be done about a situation. When you explained to him about some unfair thing that had happened to you and how you were outraged by it, he would simply quip, “Such is life!” That was what he said when there was no explanation to be given, no wisdom to be dispensed on how to correct a situation. Just, “such is life!”.

In that saying, though, there was great wisdom. It may have sounded like a cop-out to me when I was in the middle of whatever situation I presented to him and he gave me that quip. However, there was great wisdom in those three words, “such is life!”. In those three words was a reminder that sometimes in life, you are going to be in no-win situations. Sometimes in life, you gotta take you lumps and just survive. Sometimes in life, unfair things happen to us and we can either be devastated by them, use them as an excuse for the future, or we can get knocked down, get up, dust our pants off, and go about the business of recovering from the unfair thing that happened to us. There is an old saying similar to my dad’s three-word saying that says “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it!”

One of the things that I admired about my dad was the fact that he always had what was best for me in his mind. He raised me with an eye toward the man that he wanted me to become in the future and never compromised that. It meant there was discipline and consequences and no negotiations about any penalties to be paid for bad behavior. He was also a very approachable dad who gave me wisdom in our conversations about things I was facing in life. I went to mom when I just needed somebody to hug me but I went to dad when I needed advice and wisdom. “Such is life” was sometimes the response which meant that I just needed to accept the wrong that was done and recover from it. Sometimes, you just gotta get over it and move on and keep living. Don’t get so caught up on what happened to you but do get busy getting over it and moving on. That’s wisdom that many people need to hear today.

I thought of my dad with his sage, Southern wisdom when I looked at how Solomon handled this situation in 1 Kings 3:16-28 today. Solomon shows great wisdom here. He cares about the most important thing and that is the child. Let us see how he handles this situation as we read:
16 Some time later two prostitutes came to the king to have an argument settled. 17 “Please, my lord,” one of them began, “this woman and I live in the same house. I gave birth to a baby while she was with me in the house. 18 Three days later this woman also had a baby. We were alone; there were only two of us in the house.

19 “But her baby died during the night when she rolled over on it. 20 Then she got up in the night and took my son from beside me while I was asleep. She laid her dead child in my arms and took mine to sleep beside her. 21 And in the morning when I tried to nurse my son, he was dead! But when I looked more closely in the morning light, I saw that it wasn’t my son at all.”

22 Then the other woman interrupted, “It certainly was your son, and the living child is mine.”

“No,” the first woman said, “the living child is mine, and the dead one is yours.” And so they argued back and forth before the king.

23 Then the king said, “Let’s get the facts straight. Both of you claim the living child is yours, and each says that the dead one belongs to the other. 24 All right, bring me a sword.” So a sword was brought to the king.

25 Then he said, “Cut the living child in two, and give half to one woman and half to the other!”

26 Then the woman who was the real mother of the living child, and who loved him very much, cried out, “Oh no, my lord! Give her the child—please do not kill him!”

But the other woman said, “All right, he will be neither yours nor mine; divide him between us!”

27 Then the king said, “Do not kill the child, but give him to the woman who wants him to live, for she is his mother!”

28 When all Israel heard the king’s decision, the people were in awe of the king, for they saw the wisdom God had given him for rendering justice.

In this passage, we see Solomon’s settlement of this dispute as a classic example of his wisdom. This wise ruling was verification that God had answered Solomon’s prayer and given him an understanding heart. We have God’s wisdom available to us as we pray and request it. However, we must, like Solomon, put it into action.

Just as my dad sometimes had to tell me what I needed to hear such as “such is life” so, too, does Solomon wisely discerns that the most important here is the child and its relationship with its mother. In this situation, the one who was willing to give up her own child so that it may live was the true mother. To the other mother, the child was simply a possession. To the real mother, the child was the most important thing. The wisdom of Solomon pushes this reality to the surface with the absurd notion of cutting the baby in half, which of course would have killed the baby. The true mother’s love is forced to the surface at the thought of killing her child just to win an argument. Solomon had just the right thing to say here to resolve the situation that seemed to be unresolvable at first.

My dad was the same way with me. He had a way to getting to the heart of the matter when I discussed things with him. Sometimes, the response has to be “such as life” because that is the case. Sometimes, the greatest wisdom seems so absurd at the time. Cutting a baby in half or “such is life” seems cruel in one case and uncaring in the other. However, in both cases, the truth of the matter is forced to the surface. With my dad, “such is life” was his way of saying, “ok, Mark, I know what happened to you was unfair but from what you have said, there is nothing that you can do about it other than accept it and move on.” Sometimes, we need to hear that. Sometimes, we need that truth forced to the surface.

Thanks, Dad, for telling me what I needed to hear rather than what I wanted to hear.

Amen and Amen.

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