2 Samuel 11:1-27 (Part 2) – Unplug. Go Home. Love Your Wife.

Posted: June 18, 2018 in 10-2 Samuel

2 Samuel 11:1-27 (Part 2 of 5)
David Sins with Bathsheba & Arranges Uriah’s Death

Good morning everyone! Sorry that I have not posted in three days but it was a weekend where reconnecting with my spouse and doing things in my yard and the need for rest took precedence. There was a Friday where we slept a little later and got a slow start. Had our morning coffee. I went for my usual morning 8+ mile walk. Then we went to the community aquatic center and chilled out at the pool for about four hours and then we had a “date night” (dinner at Red Robin and then a movie, “Oceans 8”). Saturday, I did have a work thing early in the morning (the monthly church board of directors meeting and elders meeting after that). When I got home, I worked in the yard for about 4 hours (cutting grass, doing the trim work, and then sweeping up afterwards). Then, there was a nice 2.5 hour nap after my shower. Saturday evening, we just chilled out since we had gone out the night before. Sunday was church, then another nap, and then relaxing the rest of the day (phone call to my dad and then phone calls from my oldest daughter and then my stepdaughter). It was a good weekend. Time well spent with my wife. We must make time to invest in our wives, gentlemen. We must make them a priority. Ministry can wait sometimes.

As I build and sometimes struggle with what my ministry is and will be at Calvary, I could very easily get caught up in obsessing about it. And, I admit over the last four months that has been true at times. Worrying about whether I am up to the task. Wondering whether I am really a pastor or just the chief accountant at a church. Wondering when I am going to grasp the “why” behind the processes and procedures in place at the church. Wondering whether I will ever be able to express my teaching and writing talents for the good of the church. Wondering if I have what it takes to preach to large audiences or whether it’s just that I have not had enough practice at it and wondering if I will ever get the necessary practice. There are things that I am passionate about outside of that as well. I would love to see our church have a hundred life groups or more and love to be a part of seeing people discipled in life groups all over our church. We have some good strong life groups in our church but the movement has not reached a critical mass in our church yet. I feel so strongly about life groups because it was through life groups from Livermore CA to Lyman, SC to here that I have developed deep relationships with friends and learned much about God’s Word and learned much about living a life of humble service through life groups. There is so much to do and I wonder at times if I have what it takes to even be a part of what is groundswelling now at Calvary much less lead the charge. I could work myself silly in that process.

But I need to take time every Friday and Saturday (my weekends) to reconnect with my wife. I need that time to make sure she gets quality time from me. I need to understand what she needs from me. I need to be more attentive to her. When we let work dominate our lives, it can lead us to neglect our wives and that is a sin that can lead to other sins. When work even if it is for a church consumes your life, it can become your mistress as much as actually having physical one. We must unplug, go home, study our wives, understand what makes them tick, and reconnect with them. There was a time in each of our relationships that we did whatever we could to impress the woman who became our spouse. There was a time when we figured out all the little things that made them smile and did those things. Let us as pastors and as men make sure that we unplug from work and really go home when we go home.
That was the thing that I thought of this morning as I read 2 Samuel 11 for the second of five times this morning – David was busy with things that don’t matter. If he was home, he should have really been home and been paying attention to what his wife (or in his cases, wives – which is a problem in and of itself but…) needed. When we lose focus on home, nothing else really matters. Let’s read 2 Samuel 11 now:


Chapter 11
1 In the spring of the year, when kings normally go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege to the city of Rabbah. However, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.

2 Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath. 3 He sent someone to find out who she was, and he was told, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 4 Then David sent messengers to get her; and when she came to the palace, he slept with her. She had just completed the purification rites after having her menstrual period. Then she returned home. 5 Later, when Bathsheba discovered that she was pregnant, she sent David a message, saying, “I’m pregnant.”

6 Then David sent word to Joab: “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” So Joab sent him to David. 7 When Uriah arrived, David asked him how Joab and the army were getting along and how the war was progressing. 8 Then he told Uriah, “Go on home and relax.[b]” David even sent a gift to Uriah after he had left the palace. 9 But Uriah didn’t go home. He slept that night at the palace entrance with the king’s palace guard.

10 When David heard that Uriah had not gone home, he summoned him and asked, “What’s the matter? Why didn’t you go home last night after being away for so long?”

11 Uriah replied, “The Ark and the armies of Israel and Judah are living in tents,[c] and Joab and my master’s men are camping in the open fields. How could I go home to wine and dine and sleep with my wife? I swear that I would never do such a thing.”

12 “Well, stay here today,” David told him, “and tomorrow you may return to the army.” So Uriah stayed in Jerusalem that day and the next. 13 Then David invited him to dinner and got him drunk. But even then he couldn’t get Uriah to go home to his wife. Again he slept at the palace entrance with the king’s palace guard.
David Arranges for Uriah’s Death

14 So the next morning David wrote a letter to Joab and gave it to Uriah to deliver. 15 The letter instructed Joab, “Station Uriah on the front lines where the battle is fiercest. Then pull back so that he will be killed.” 16 So Joab assigned Uriah to a spot close to the city wall where he knew the enemy’s strongest men were fighting. 17 And when the enemy soldiers came out of the city to fight, Uriah the Hittite was killed along with several other Israelite soldiers.

18 Then Joab sent a battle report to David. 19 He told his messenger, “Report all the news of the battle to the king. 20 But he might get angry and ask, ‘Why did the troops go so close to the city? Didn’t they know there would be shooting from the walls? 21 Wasn’t Abimelech son of Gideon[d] killed at Thebez by a woman who threw a millstone down on him from the wall? Why would you get so close to the wall?’ Then tell him, ‘Uriah the Hittite was killed, too.’”

22 So the messenger went to Jerusalem and gave a complete report to David. 23 “The enemy came out against us in the open fields,” he said. “And as we chased them back to the city gate, 24 the archers on the wall shot arrows at us. Some of the king’s men were killed, including Uriah the Hittite.”

25 “Well, tell Joab not to be discouraged,” David said. “The sword devours this one today and that one tomorrow! Fight harder next time, and conquer the city!”

26 When Uriah’s wife heard that her husband was dead, she mourned for him. 27 When the period of mourning was over, David sent for her and brought her to the palace, and she became one of his wives. Then she gave birth to a son. But the Lord was displeased with what David had done.

In this passage, we see that, as David looked from the roof of his palace, he saw a beautiful woman bathing, and he was filled with physical desire and sexual lust. David should have left the roof and fled the temptation. Instead, he entertained the temptation by inquiring about Bathsheba. The results were devastating. To flee temptation, we must ask God in prayer to help you and me stay away from people, places, and situations that may tempt us. We search the concordance in the back of most Bibles for passages about temptation and lust and desire and study those passages (not just the specific verse references but entire passages around that referenced verse). In this way, we can know God heart and know His desire for us to not be entangled by the ravages of sin (and in this case, the specific sins of carnal lust). At the root of most temptation is a real need or desire that God can fill for us but we must trust in His timing. We also need to find another believer in whom you have the utmost trust with whom you can openly share your struggles. This person can be your lifeline that you can call for help when temptation strikes.

Let us be men who focus on our homes first and our jobs second. Temptations come when we get this order out of whack. The divorce rate in our country is a testament to the fact that we put our personal ambitions and desires before our families. We need to be men who pays attention to our homes. We need to pay attention to our wives. We need to see our home as our highest priority on earth. We need to see our wives as our top priority as men on this side of heaven. We need to take time to unplug and reconnect with them each week. Then, we do not end up on the roof of the palace looking an lusting after things that can only hurt us. Unplug. Go home. Love your wife.

Amen and Amen.

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